How to get unstuck (without leaving your comfort zone)
By Dr Berni Sewell | Overcome your fears
I love life. But sometimes I feel like I am sitting at the edge of it. Looking in, observing.
Yearning for the adventures I want to experience, gauging the mountains I want to climb, pondering about the goals I want to achieve.
But never moving. I watch other people accomplish what is only real in my imagination. See them reach milestones I only ever meet in my careful plans. Witness them living the life I crave.
And I envy them. I try to move forward. But it feels like I run on the spot, trapped on a giant foam roller. Exhausting myself turning the wheel underneath my feet without ever progressing towards my dreams.
And I beat myself up for my ineptitude. Curse my job for occupying too much of my time. Blame my family for all their needs, wants and demands that stop me from moving towards my goals.
I feel angry about my current circumstances that keep me trapped. Resent the people who hold me in place.
When the truth is that I am scared. Terrified that I may fail and know once and for all that I am not good enough to reach my goals. Horrified of how my life may change if I succeed.
And petrified of the unknown. The unexplored blank space that lurks between my familiar existence and my goals and dreams. Full of threats, dangers and risks, but also possibilities I will never discover.
Because I am stuck. Caught in the unsurmountable pull of my comfort zone. Watching life rather than living it. Making plans instead of executing them. My back aching under the pressure of unfulfilled desires, frustration and disappointment.
With one question burning on my mind: How can I ever leave my comfort zone and finally get unstuck?
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