How to break the worthlessness habit (even if you failed in the past)
By Dr Berni Sewell | Heal your self-worth
Do me a favour.
Cross your arms in front of your chest. Done? How does it feel?
Natural? Comfortable? Safe? Normal?
Now cross your arms the other way. Whichever arm was on top before goes underneath and the other way around. Give it a go.
If you are anything like me, you’ll struggle to even figure out how to do it. Do it anyway. For the (self-worth) experiment’s sake.
How does this feel now?
It feels wrong, right? Awkward, unnatural and weird. And you yearn to stop and revert to the way you’re used to. The nice, safe, comfy way.
That’s because your mind, when given half a chance, will try to maintain the status quo. It will encourage you to stick with common practice. Do things the usual way. Even if it’s against common sense.
Just think about a dessert buffet. When confronted with the choice between a selection of mouth-watering cakes and fruit salad, we will almost certainly pick the cake. Even though we know the fruit salad is healthier.
While common sense warns that we’ll regret eating the cake, common practice still makes us scoff it. It’s habit. What we’ve always done and always will do. Even if we beat ourselves up for it afterwards because we know it harms our body.
And we do this for one simple reason…
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