“If one more person tells me to love myself first, I am going to punch them in the face.”
I had been talking to a lovely, young man who was having trouble finding love. He told me that he couldn’t love himself if nobody else did.
And I had just suggested that his worth did not depend on whether others loved and accepted him. And that, maybe…just maybe, it was time to focus on loving himself first before he could find romance and a relationship with somebody else.
And the above was his answer.
Reading Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani’s new book “Becoming Flawesome” recently reminded me of this episode.
And I of course understand where he is coming from. Why he feels that he can’t love himself.
After all, we have been told all our lives that we must earn love and happiness. We must be deserving of it. And to become deserving of love, we must have enough worth.
And to have enough worth, we must be perfect. In every way.
Which is the main reason why we struggle so much to love and accept ourselves…Read more